Living within a disability

A sister can be seen as someone who is both ourselves and very much not ourselves - a special kind of double.  ~Toni Morrison


My 10-year old sister, Ruth, who is my pride and joy, my road dog, my best friend and the greatest gift God could have blessed my mother with to be a huge presence in my life. My baby sister was born with Cerebral Palsy and has had some trying but, achievable times overcoming her disease and disability.

Having Cerebral Palsy has caused her to live with a developmental delay and limited dexterity in her right arm but, wears a brace to improve its functionality. But she is a very intelligent young girl who does not allow her disability to suppress her from taking on the world. And I am the one who have instilled that belief in her. I commend myself for teaching her that.

Even though I have taught her to love who she is no matter what. I still fear everyday how society may treat her. Because society can be cruel, especially to those who suffer from disabilities. Being as young as she is, she has taught me many things. She has taught me that, saying "I love you" or "You are the best sister in the world" or asking "Are you okay?" at random times during the day is fine. She has painted a picture of love that is not explainable, but achievable by anyone.

I gazed over the fact that kids can always be so carefree and not let the problems of the world get to them. I try to adapt that philosophy to my daily life. Sometimes it works and other times it doesn't. But those days that it doesn't, I can come home to warm and welcome greeting from her to brighten up my day.

Ruth has been the greatest influence on my life. I bet if you saw me walking down the street with her one day, you would think she was my child. And that is how I treat her. Everyday I wish people would take a breath and look around them. Because the world is not as bad as we make it seem. Luckily, Ruth has taught me that. If it wasn't for this kid, I don't think I would learn as much as I have.

I could write paragraphs on paragraphs about how her daily challenges with school, friends, family and society affect her daily life. But It would not be uplifting to me. It would make me feel like I am treating her like a statistic when she is a human being. I rather tell you how much of an influence she is on my life and you will then learn how she lives and enjoys the simplest things in life.

"Never allow your disability to overcome you, You should overcome your disability and turn it into the greatest gift God has blessed you with." ~ Fatmatta